Single dad doesn’t always mean you will have your kids full time—and even if you are their primary caregiver, there are still bound to be times when you are apart from each other for longer periods of time. I once had a new single father describe being away from his children “like a hole in my gut”. I get it guys, and I’ve been there. I encourage you to continually seek out ways you can work on being a better dad, even when the times get hard. Below are a few examples to get you started.
Pray for them
There is no distance, circumstance, or hindrance that can prevent you from praying for your children—except yourself. The Bible is very clear that prayer works, and I cannot think of many things greater than a father praying for his children.
If it’s an option. Use the technology we have nowadays and reach out to your children. Be available as much as you can for them to call you too, let them know their time is always cherished.
This is one of my favorites! I have been keeping a journal for years for my daughter and I hope to present my writings to her one day when she is older. Begin now writing down the memories you have already created with them and write words of love and affirmation while you are apart. These will be living messages our children can hold on to long after we are gone.
Spice up the surroundings
OK, so we dads don’t always think of spicing things up, but what I mean is make your house a home. Clean up if need be, and maybe surprise them by adding some fresh paint to their room, rearranging or creating a new play area, or anything else that sends a surprise message of love once they are back.
Work on yourself
There is no greater use of your time apart from your children than working on your own personal relationship with the Lord and growing as a man, father, and leader. Dive into the Word and seek His guidance. Improve and grow your prayer life. Make any changes in the natural and spiritual that will help you to leave a legacy that honors God and impacts your son or daughter for His purposes.
As a single dad, will you press into your heavenly Father today so that you can continue to be a great father to your children tomorrow?
And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse. –Malachi 4:6 (KJV)